Never Give Up

Never Give Up

Life is yours for the taking and you are a powerful individual. Embrace the day and enjoy each moment. Let your inner peace and inspiration take over and allow your life to transform ūüėČ sometimes being productive requires you to stop worrying and just be. Do whatever daily duties you must do and in your spare time don’t beat yourself up about anything. Feel love for your desires and the answers will show up for you.

Reclaim your power and tap into courage!

Recently, I’ve been¬†unwillingly¬†exercising¬†negative feelings and thoughts stemming from insecurity¬†(I hate to admit it but it’s true).¬†Insecurity¬†of where I am in life which led to questioning where I was headed in life or how I’d get to where I wanted to be. That’s the problem with over-thinking, we¬†dissect¬†each thought and¬†criticize, think and think on it and our minds begin to over analyse and so steer towards thoughts of lack or worry.

“We are dying from overthinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death trap.” –¬†Anthony Hopkins

We question our capabilities and worthiness of being able to attain what we want. We beat ourselves up for being where we are yet lack the willpower and motivation to make a change. Fear gets the better of us and we become focused in moments outside of the present. Whenever I felt ease or a bit of hope, it was very short-lived. Affirmations were not resonating with me or sticking; they were just words. This manifested into my physical being as I became lethargic however this weekend, something just clicked.

I came across a post on chakras whilst browsing online. I’ve known about chakras for some years but this particular post I had stumbled upon¬†inspired¬†me to look at the subject in more detail. I realised that chakras are energy centres in our body which we must maintain¬†healthily¬†through¬†ensuring that¬†the energy flow in each one is unblocked. I came to realise that a few of my chakras are¬†blocked¬†and I understood that it was due to letting¬†disappointments¬†get the better of me. I needed to¬†reinforce¬†perseverance¬†and remember my inner champion. I then reminded myself of when I was at university and the amount of unshakeable confidence and power I had mentally back then was a lot more than what I was feeling recently. I felt this sense of clarity and¬†power¬†enter me. I realised that I had been fearing more and¬†trusting God/Source/The Universe¬†less all that time. I¬†belittled¬†myself and my¬†existence¬†instead of reminding myself that I am a¬†powerful¬†being and I am here to make a¬†difference (as we all are)¬†I was scared to take action to better my¬†circumstances since my outside world was reflective of my fears.

As of this weekend, my thoughts have now become,

“Stop being so negative¬†and¬†reclaim your power! You are powerful, you are worthy.¬†Trust more and fear less. You are looked after and everything¬†always¬†works¬†out for you. Never belittle yourself and do not give up.¬†You¬†are a fighter and a winner so yield that power. You are also a work in¬†progress¬†so stop pressuring yourself unnecessarily. You need not justify where you are to anyone or to yourself, focus on what you want¬†and take steps to achieve that. I am unrestricted and limitless.”

I now feel those words. I have embraced my courage that had become dormant and am diminishing my fears (I mean what the hell have I got to be afraid of anyway?! I receive so much love and support from family and friends. I have nothing life threatening going on). I feel a lot more in control of myself and my life. I will witness any negative thoughts or feelings of insecurity and watch them dissolve rather than run away from them through denial. I am courageous, I am a fighter. I am powerful. I am fresh, innovative energy. I am going to fiercely pursue my dreams and persevere through whatever comes my way. Fear is an illusion and it just spirals into self doubt and inaction. I am worthy. I can and I will accomplish anything and everything I want.

So you know what I say to life?….

Don’t make life difficult and don’t look back. Work¬†with¬†that you have and where you are. Take action to improve whatever you want to improve and do not let setbacks diminish¬†your¬†faith. Promise yourself that you will do your best to stay strong¬†and¬†feel as good as you can in this present moment. Life really isn’t as hard or dreary as we sometimes tell¬†ourselves¬†it is, that’s just the dramatic ego talking.

I’ll also leave you with a few quotes…

“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” –¬†Muhammad Ali

“You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.” –¬†Aristotle

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” –¬†Dale Carnegie

The will to persevere is often the difference between failure and success.” –¬†David Sarnoff

“Destiny has a lot to do with it, but so do you. You have to persevere, you have to insist.” –¬†Andrea Bocelli

‚ÄúWe are like butterflies who flutter for a day and think it is forever.‚ÄĚ – Carl Sagan

I just came across this quote and it really sparked up something inside of me,

‚ÄúWe are like butterflies who flutter for a day and think it is forever.‚ÄĚ – Carl Sagan

My interpretation of this quote resonates with something I have witnessed happen with my feelings and emotions all of the time. I interpret this quote as saying that when we have those moments of great happiness, immense feelings of love and joy; we feel so elated and on top the world and in result feel indestructible. We assume those positive feelings and highs will never end once we have attained it. However, they do.

The fact that we come down from that place of bliss is natural. However I have now come to understand that that feeling of bliss, is temporary pleasure. It is a feeling mistaken for what we’re really meant to attain which is inner peace,

“Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional” – Buddhist Proverb

It’s very easy to get into a trap of justifying and putting a label on where you are in life. This could be due to maybe feeling stagnant and without realising, looking outside of yourself to find a reason to feel happy, successful and loved. Another thing that gets brought into this mixture is beating yourself up about feeling bad. You know how to be happy and positive yet here you are feeling low. It’s as if you’ve let yourself down as you are not appreciating everything you have or you’ve somehow not used your abilities to their best potential. Those thoughts only make the situation worse, they are not beneficial and are useless. We have the power to change things and the first step is to focus solely on what you wish to see, feel and accomplish rather than looking back or at your current situation and not feeling good about it.

Online, individuals have suggested that the meaning of the Carl Sagan quote is about time. The universe is timeless and limitless however we are in a time-space reality. Time is all an illusion as we only truly have this NOW moment. Our ego will think about the past and future and we rarely become mindful and bask in the current moment.

“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.” – Marcel Pagnol

The ego deviates us from our true state of bliss, freedom and relaxation. It makes us worry, overthink and become ungrateful. I find it hard to accept that I have moments of great appreciation and happiness and yet find myself still having moments of frustration and lack at times therefore we must remember,

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.” – Ekhart Tolle

Being unemployed for the past few months has resulted in negative thoughts creeping in such as “how will I explain employment gaps?”, “I’ve wasted time”, “There’ll be new graduates graduating this year, what have I done with myself?” I have forgotten my accomplishments and that life is fun and a journey. I have so much going for me and an amazing future ahead of me! Everyone has their own individual path and we are all destined for different things. Such feelings and thoughts of negativity can arise through comparison of yourself with others. It’s also a result of worrying what others think about you. This is your life, you don’t need to justify yourself to anyone and whoever is worth your time will recognise you. I am so blessed to have family and friends who always support me and love me, I must return that love to myself. I have let time discourage me.

We don’t have to have a very busy and active life to be grateful for times of peace and relaxation. Boredom can get the better of us, I know it gets the better of me and so it results in me feeling demotivated and useless. We must know that life happens the way it’s meant to and this time out is just a part of the process. The best thing to do is not label it as anything such as “unemployed” or “trying to figure out my life.” Life happens and is always moving, stay positive and do not let circumstances outside of you rob you of your peace. Nothing lasts forever and everything is temporary including outside situations and inner emotions. This too shall pass.

It’s normal to have good days and bad days, that’s life. The best thing to do is to just work on feeling better. Relax in the thought and knowledge that everything works our perfectly for us, life happens FOR us, we are life! We are always connected to source and we feel bad when we disconnect ourselves through letting our ego get the better of us. We are humans and we will experience a variety in emotions and feelings, we are learning and expanding. We need to let ourselves of the hook. To finish off, I will quote something that I said to a close friend of mine last night,

“We are human and we’re not perfect but we’re also more powerful than we think.”

Never dis-empower or belittle yourself with feelings of “failure.” Know you are important and expect success.

“You can’t get it wrong and you never get it done” – Abraham Hicks

Staying hopeful through confusion and demotivation

So I haven’t written in a while, I think I’ve just been lazy and a little scared. The past few months have been a little up and down and dry for me. I want a job but I lack motivation to look. I am a little out of focus¬†because¬†on one hand I want a job to¬†get¬†money but then I also want to kick start a career. I lack focus on where I exactly want to go and so this can be¬†stressful at times¬†and leaves me feeling uninspired. Such decisions pan out as life goes on and we sometimes pressure ourselves¬†too¬†much into believing we¬†must¬†have all of the¬†answers.

Sometimes we forget to just enjoy life and trust that things work out as they should. We all have our own individual life path. It’s very easy to take life too seriously when really that’s just our minds talking nonsense. Abraham Hicks says that when pure inspiration hits, the universe will guide you to where you must be and what actions you must take and when you know this…”wild horses cannot keep you from it.”

Being unemployed has allowed me to explore what I wish to pursue creatively and to stay open to random¬†opportunities.¬†I guess it’s reinforced that my main priority is to¬†pursue¬†work I enjoy and that is fulfilling; work that will allow me to progress and learn so that I can build a career rather than just¬†working¬†to make money. Sometimes that can be hard to accept and I just feel lazy and bored when I have nothing to do. I feel as though I am watching the days pass me by and time is slipping away and being wasted. However that is a perception and interpretation from the ego. We have been conditioned to believe that we must always be active in order to¬†prove¬†ourselves. My friends that are working and earning money wish that they were in my shoes! We seem to¬†criticise¬†and point out the flaws of where we find¬†ourselves¬†in life rather than relax and know that¬†everything¬†is as it should be.

I read a quote today from my Angel Messages book by Juan Nakamori,

“No matter how difficult your circumstances, never give up hope. Trust in the wisdom of the Creator as, out of the blue, events may turn in your favour.”

This¬†quote¬†has made me feel so at ease since I always tell myself and others whenever¬†feeling stagnant; you don’t know what’s around the corner. It just takes a single event or¬†meeting¬†for¬†everything¬†to change and for great things¬†happen.¬†It’s exciting and encouraging to know that life can surprise us and show us everything we’ve wanted¬†unfold before our eyes.

I also had a dream a few weeks back in which¬†I was walking along a road and just enjoying my journey even though there wasn’t much to see (which is how we should live life). I then¬†approached¬†a crossroads and I saw a sign¬†pointing¬†specifically towards a road with my full name on it boldly and clearly. I interpret this dream as a reflection of my current situation of being unemployed and confused. It is a¬†reminder¬†that I am always on a journey and I must enjoy it and when the time comes to choose a path, I will know which one to take as it will¬†boldly¬†indicate what¬†direction¬†is the right route for me.

Life always¬†works¬†out for us and I¬†find¬†that when we attain what we’ve wished¬†for, we forget never having it in¬†the¬†first¬†place. We then¬†look¬†back with understanding as to why things panned out the way they did. I hope I can read¬†this¬†back next month and feel as if I’ve progressed¬†immensely :). There is always opportunity for change and to take steps in achieving what you want regardless of where you currently find yourself.

Focus only on what you want

“If you could just give you‚Äôre undivided attention to where you want to go and never mind where you’ve been and stop trying to explain to everyone why you‚Äôre standing where you‚Äôre standing, you would clean your vibration up so fast you would attune to the vibration of your desire so quickly and people watching you would be amazed. They would say, ‚ÄúWho anointed you king of the world? How is it that you just wave your hand and whatever you want happens? How is it that doors open for you, that seas part for you, that you barely get an idea about something and the Universe finds a way to help you manifest it? How is it that you were born with this golden spoon in your mouth? How is it that you are the most blessed person that we know?‚ÄĚ the throngs will say to you. And you will say, ‚ÄúAll I do is think about what I want and let that dominate my vibration. And I don‚Äôt pay too much attention to where I’ve been because it seems irrelevant. And I pay attention to the way I feel and when I don‚Äôt feel good I try to feel better by thinking thoughts that feel better. And I’ve just trained myself to follow the good feeling.‚ÄĚ

Abraham Hicks – 8th May 2004

“You are the ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse. The ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse is only made up of ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ, and that‚Äôs all you‚Äôll ever find in your particular ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse‚Ķis you, your expression of the Infinite.”

“You are the ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse. The ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse is only made up of ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ, and that‚Äôs all you‚Äôll ever find in your particular ‚Äúyou‚ÄĚ niverse‚Ķis you, your expression of the Infinite.”


The beauty of hindsight regarding a breakup

In a few days it’s going to be a year since my ex and I split up. This year of being single has been amazing. However, the first few months were agonizing and hard as I had to rebuild my self love from the pain of the breakup and emotional turmoil. I had become insecure and found it very easy to fall into the trap of self pity and blame. Such feelings are common given the circumstances and I never wanted to fall in love again. I also felt as if I had forgotten how to be single and being alone with my thoughts was unpleasant. I now look back and am grateful for the experience. My ex was my first proper boyfriend, my first love and he set the standard for every guy thereafter. The men I attract now are so much better than the boys I’d attract before that relationship. I am also a lot more aware of my self worth and do not feel I need attention or a male figure in my life constantly in order to feel good about myself.

I’ve never been one to rely on a male companion to feel fulfilled or happy however we all enjoy receiving attention and it’s fun having that someone to flirt and talk to. Being in love and the feeling of fresh romance is exhilarating and I can look back at the moments I first fell in love and feel the raw, intense joy it brings. That is how I know I have fully overcome the pain from that breakup and feel no bitterness towards my ex. I have reached a place of understanding and compassion. I see and understand that every relationship and romantic encounter is a lesson to us; they allow us to collect data on what we really want and need in a man. These “mistakes” allow progression and so when approached from a detached perspective, the breakups do not being pain, they bring us an opportunity to upgrade from the relationship we thought was best for us. I needed to make that mistake of falling in love and being attached in order to be able to look at myself later and realise where I had gone wrong in order to prevent that happening again. Being in love for the first time can be very confusing and overwhelming  The next relationships will only be better as I now know what it feels like to fall in love and how I should keep myself aware of the bigger picture in life at all times. We can easily lose sight and get caught up in the infatuation and feelings of romance. We can also easily get caught up in the feelings of bitterness, pain and over-thinking of what went “wrong” when the relationship ends.

Every emotion and experience serves us and it takes time for us to get over all the negative, confused emotions and thoughts to embrace that concept. I feel I am at my peak with my sense of self worth and what I deserve in a man and that will only expand in the future. Life just gets better and better as time goes on….if you let it.

When I now think of what I want in my man/husband, there is more on the list than there was 18 months ago. My ex was everything I wanted back then, the guys after him have been an upgrade since and now I am still adding to that list (I’d listen to Beyonc√© – Upgrade U after the breakup quite frequently ūüėČ hehe). I cannot wait to meet this amazing companion. However I am happy being single at the moment and I’m so in love with myself and life that I feel fulfilled. I feel satisfied yet excited and open to receiving more of life’s great gifts which are beyond our imagination. It’s all about finding that balance between feeling fulfilled and happy with life yet also aware and open to new experiences. Being so satisfied with life that you feel bored is stagnation, keep the imagination flowing.

So I’d like to say thank you to the universe for that heartbreak I experienced last year and the amazing year I’ve had being single. I feel strong, I feel love, I feel joy, I feel invincible, I feel aware and I feel expansive. As Anthony Robbins says, “Raise your standards.” Life presents you with higher standards through mistakes and so you can only receive better if you embrace every lesson life brings.

True love begins with self love and authentic love for life. Many relationships are dissatisfying or will start off perfect and then deteriorate because one or both people have certain expectations, the love is conditional, they become attached or are pursuing the relationship to fill voids. What you want you must become therefore become a being full of genuine happiness and love. That’s when you can have fun and let all the amazing relationships come to you since outside circumstances will not tarnish your inner happiness.

Happy New Year

It’s the last day of 2012 and when I look back at this year and how much has happened;¬†I feel immense liberation. This time last year I was in a relationship¬†however¬†I could tell it was coming to an end. I was in my final year of¬†university¬†and truthfully, I felt¬†dissatisfied¬†with life. I was depressed and would have to convince myself that I was happy¬†however¬†my mind and heart were contradicting¬†eachother. I was¬†definitely¬†out of alignment.

A lot of soul searching has occurred this year. The tipping point for me where the quality of my life really improved was in July this year. I finally felt that all of the pain and bitterness towards the split from my ex was gone. I loved myself and began genuinely enjoying life. Thereafter things just got better and better. I became a redhead in May which was actually accidental but nothing is ever really an accident is it ;). My red hair has become my identity and I love it! Everyone compliments it and tells me it’s my colour and I really can’t imagine myself going back to black or brown any time soon.

I graduated on 21st July with my university degree in Media which I had a great time studying. It was the end of an amazing chapter in my life and I was ready to move onto the next one. I was enjoying being back at home and around my family more, I was getting to spend time with my friends from back home and loved meeting up with university friends. I started listening to the teachings of Abraham Hicks frequently and began to truly embrace and bask in every moment of happiness and so felt continuous appreciation for life. Great people and experiences were coming to me all the time and since the bigger picture of life has remained my focal point, I feel detachment. I see that life is just one big lesson whereby we continue to grow and evolve, if we let ourselves. Holding onto pain is just a huge and unnecessary delay in attaining happiness as well as the biggest thief of our true power. Everything we do and think is a habit and I’ve made happiness mine. Negative feelings and thoughts have been quieted,

“Feed your faith and your fears will starve¬†to death”

I can honestly say I feel in top of the world and so strong right now. The final six months of this¬†year, especially¬†this past month have been so fun and fulfilling. I am so in love with life and myself. If you love life, it will love you back. I have learned so much about how important it is to focus on your desires and to enjoy life. I have a continuous feeling of¬†contentment with life as well as¬†excitement ūüėÄ .

‚ÄúBe content with what you have;¬†rejoice in the way things are.¬†When you realize there is nothing lacking,¬†the whole world belongs to you.‚Ä̬†– Lao Tzu

I am very excited to see what 2013 will bring me as I’m filled with tremendous hope and know that the universe gives me everything I want in abundance.

“Feelings of love, joy, passion, exhilaration, fun, interest….. are indications of your vibrational match to Well-being.”¬†– Abraham-Hicks