“We are like butterflies who flutter for a day and think it is forever.” – Carl Sagan

I just came across this quote and it really sparked up something inside of me,

“We are like butterflies who flutter for a day and think it is forever.” – Carl Sagan

My interpretation of this quote resonates with something I have witnessed happen with my feelings and emotions all of the time. I interpret this quote as saying that when we have those moments of great happiness, immense feelings of love and joy; we feel so elated and on top the world and in result feel indestructible. We assume those positive feelings and highs will never end once we have attained it. However, they do.

The fact that we come down from that place of bliss is natural. However I have now come to understand that that feeling of bliss, is temporary pleasure. It is a feeling mistaken for what we’re really meant to attain which is inner peace,

“Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional” – Buddhist Proverb

It’s very easy to get into a trap of justifying and putting a label on where you are in life. This could be due to maybe feeling stagnant and without realising, looking outside of yourself to find a reason to feel happy, successful and loved. Another thing that gets brought into this mixture is beating yourself up about feeling bad. You know how to be happy and positive yet here you are feeling low. It’s as if you’ve let yourself down as you are not appreciating everything you have or you’ve somehow not used your abilities to their best potential. Those thoughts only make the situation worse, they are not beneficial and are useless. We have the power to change things and the first step is to focus solely on what you wish to see, feel and accomplish rather than looking back or at your current situation and not feeling good about it.

Online, individuals have suggested that the meaning of the Carl Sagan quote is about time. The universe is timeless and limitless however we are in a time-space reality. Time is all an illusion as we only truly have this NOW moment. Our ego will think about the past and future and we rarely become mindful and bask in the current moment.

“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.” – Marcel Pagnol

The ego deviates us from our true state of bliss, freedom and relaxation. It makes us worry, overthink and become ungrateful. I find it hard to accept that I have moments of great appreciation and happiness and yet find myself still having moments of frustration and lack at times therefore we must remember,

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.” – Ekhart Tolle

Being unemployed for the past few months has resulted in negative thoughts creeping in such as “how will I explain employment gaps?”, “I’ve wasted time”, “There’ll be new graduates graduating this year, what have I done with myself?” I have forgotten my accomplishments and that life is fun and a journey. I have so much going for me and an amazing future ahead of me! Everyone has their own individual path and we are all destined for different things. Such feelings and thoughts of negativity can arise through comparison of yourself with others. It’s also a result of worrying what others think about you. This is your life, you don’t need to justify yourself to anyone and whoever is worth your time will recognise you. I am so blessed to have family and friends who always support me and love me, I must return that love to myself. I have let time discourage me.

We don’t have to have a very busy and active life to be grateful for times of peace and relaxation. Boredom can get the better of us, I know it gets the better of me and so it results in me feeling demotivated and useless. We must know that life happens the way it’s meant to and this time out is just a part of the process. The best thing to do is not label it as anything such as “unemployed” or “trying to figure out my life.” Life happens and is always moving, stay positive and do not let circumstances outside of you rob you of your peace. Nothing lasts forever and everything is temporary including outside situations and inner emotions. This too shall pass.

It’s normal to have good days and bad days, that’s life. The best thing to do is to just work on feeling better. Relax in the thought and knowledge that everything works our perfectly for us, life happens FOR us, we are life! We are always connected to source and we feel bad when we disconnect ourselves through letting our ego get the better of us. We are humans and we will experience a variety in emotions and feelings, we are learning and expanding. We need to let ourselves of the hook. To finish off, I will quote something that I said to a close friend of mine last night,

“We are human and we’re not perfect but we’re also more powerful than we think.”

Never dis-empower or belittle yourself with feelings of “failure.” Know you are important and expect success.

“You can’t get it wrong and you never get it done” – Abraham Hicks

Staying hopeful through confusion and demotivation

So I haven’t written in a while, I think I’ve just been lazy and a little scared. The past few months have been a little up and down and dry for me. I want a job but I lack motivation to look. I am a little out of focus because on one hand I want a job to get money but then I also want to kick start a career. I lack focus on where I exactly want to go and so this can be stressful at times and leaves me feeling uninspired. Such decisions pan out as life goes on and we sometimes pressure ourselves too much into believing we must have all of the answers.

Sometimes we forget to just enjoy life and trust that things work out as they should. We all have our own individual life path. It’s very easy to take life too seriously when really that’s just our minds talking nonsense. Abraham Hicks says that when pure inspiration hits, the universe will guide you to where you must be and what actions you must take and when you know this…”wild horses cannot keep you from it.”

Being unemployed has allowed me to explore what I wish to pursue creatively and to stay open to random opportunities. I guess it’s reinforced that my main priority is to pursue work I enjoy and that is fulfilling; work that will allow me to progress and learn so that I can build a career rather than just working to make money. Sometimes that can be hard to accept and I just feel lazy and bored when I have nothing to do. I feel as though I am watching the days pass me by and time is slipping away and being wasted. However that is a perception and interpretation from the ego. We have been conditioned to believe that we must always be active in order to prove ourselves. My friends that are working and earning money wish that they were in my shoes! We seem to criticise and point out the flaws of where we find ourselves in life rather than relax and know that everything is as it should be.

I read a quote today from my Angel Messages book by Juan Nakamori,

“No matter how difficult your circumstances, never give up hope. Trust in the wisdom of the Creator as, out of the blue, events may turn in your favour.”

This quote has made me feel so at ease since I always tell myself and others whenever feeling stagnant; you don’t know what’s around the corner. It just takes a single event or meeting for everything to change and for great things happen. It’s exciting and encouraging to know that life can surprise us and show us everything we’ve wanted unfold before our eyes.

I also had a dream a few weeks back in which I was walking along a road and just enjoying my journey even though there wasn’t much to see (which is how we should live life). I then approached a crossroads and I saw a sign pointing specifically towards a road with my full name on it boldly and clearly. I interpret this dream as a reflection of my current situation of being unemployed and confused. It is a reminder that I am always on a journey and I must enjoy it and when the time comes to choose a path, I will know which one to take as it will boldly indicate what direction is the right route for me.

Life always works out for us and I find that when we attain what we’ve wished for, we forget never having it in the first place. We then look back with understanding as to why things panned out the way they did. I hope I can read this back next month and feel as if I’ve progressed immensely :). There is always opportunity for change and to take steps in achieving what you want regardless of where you currently find yourself.